What’s on your heart today?

Leave the heavyness
On the floor beside you
And let air pour in the door slightly open and without loss
Tell me what weighs on your heart.


Nature herself laughs and claps
With thunderous air. Leave your cares
Beneath the eaves and breathe
Inside a forest where you litter
The needle bed with despair.

Allow a friend to sit a bit, just a spell,
Without knowing they’re too close - uncomfortable, hidden in your space.
You know that strange feeling better than black ice.
Unexpectedly, a hand lifts to your cheek
Feel the warmth of surprise.

Who’s to say you didn’t get enough done
Or too few fed today. Fruitfulness forgets to smile
Productivity can’t stand your tanned cheeks
Bright with the sun’s slaps and pinches
Punished for every hand not wrung with worry.

In tombs with spelling errors in the epitaphs
Written in alphabets from the class
We skipped that spring when nothing
Not the rain or the tilted statues
In our overgrown gardens mattered.

What’s on my heart? Did you question
Or simply forget to ask you as you implied
I might dance away from this house,
Where in my delight I fed your soul
With the leftovers of the moonlight.

Eroding Layers of My Body: exhausted and radiated

Some weeks are just hard. Enduring the beatings of treatments with side effects that hurt now and may have permanently harmed my insides. The invisible me – the parts no one can see but me and my oncologist and a radiology department I’ll never meet but whose hands sign off on the findings of my PET and CT scans. My oncologist may agree or disagree – he knows my beautiful bones and organs on site. He has seen more of me than I myself have.

Think about having someone you don’t know very much about personally know so much about your life – your physical and emotional makeup and yet maybe you know they have a daughter, they’re married, how long they’ve practiced and the clinical trials in which they’re involved. That’s about all you can know. Why is that? It’s something I’ll never understand – it seems rather unfair.

I’m a patient advocate for Living Beyond Breast Cancer lbbc.org and I want to give people who may need a more than just tweet service or blog posts. Not that I’m less than brutally honest here. Rest assured you are deep diving into my life, swimming in far more water than the kiddie pool.

I sincerely hope my blog posts help as a better form of communication for me since I have a crazy sleep schedule and I’m on pacific time. Between my night 🦉 husband and cancer appointments, treatments, advocacy, my blog, social advocacy and attempting to live with this shit disease I’m way more available with asynchronous communication. Twitter, blog posts, and text communication work to interact with my virtual support friends. But I’m feeling the love of all my support sisters and brothers. God knows if I lost another one of them my heart would break wide open.

But I can’t shut dow and say, “oh, that sucks and it hurts,” just as much as if I had met them in person. With MBC it’s so different and incredibly difficult to travel anywhere requiring a flight especially with COVID19.

I have an open house policy for anyone of my friends who make it out here or want to get away. Im so lucky to have moved out to the Sierra foothills of Northern California last year and we have a beautiful home with an awesome hot tub overlooking mountains and trees and lakes and birds, and deer, and foxes and my skunk Mr. Waddles, who lives with us on the property we share together. He comes up to my kitchen door and waits for his veggies and fruits every week. Little stinker – and he’s not afraid of me. I often wonder if the animals all know when there’s a sanctuary without fences or any kind of buffer to keep them out. I even love our flock of iridescent blue-headed wild turkeys though I wish they were a little less sloppy about kicking the crap out of my rosemary and lavender. We don’t even kill spiders. It’s not fair.

But I digress… when this Covid bullshit and tRump nightmare is over I hope people will start to come visit- it’s so very peaceful except if my mad scientist is busy with one of his projects. But it could be worse.

Radiation is worse. It’s the worst therapy I’ve endured thus far. It’s caused pain, not relieved it. It’s going to hurt more than help so after I get a green light to take no more, i am through with this evil of all treatments. The dead exhaustion is worse than I’ve ever known. And I feel it ruining my abdominal organs. The L4 vertebrae gets radiated via your front not your back – my Achilles stomach. Every time there’s a cancer flare up my tummy is the first responder. It takes on all the risks. And I’m no longer willing to give it anything that will hurt it anymore than it’s already taken on for the team.

Here’s a poem to wrap up my shit week – the one I posted before this is based on a true story – it happened in 2016 a little more than a year after my diagnosis and when I started this blog. I just got my congratulations you’ve been on WordPress for four years. It seems like much longer…

A day and a Night

My layers upon layers of sleeping, dreaming, eating,

The pedantic must do’s of paying bills and taxes,

Especially the rate of relationships some more expensive yet all dearly priceless.

All of our layers come as a surprise

A few recognized

Many in disguise.

Adding up the hours, the days to equate to life:

Yet there’s nothing even about anything

As one layer thickens as some erode away.

Some the color of iron warp

To swaddle to blanket the others

Waiting for a turn to bathe in the sunshine

When we haven’t got time.

Those colorful striations of existence

Don’t we know they’ll just have to keep for now

Beneath the drifting snows of sanity.

Yet without becoming buried in blank acceptance

For whatever was seemingly so pressing on me before

I tell myself “it’ll keep” or suffocate under my own duress.

Yet my words find a heart

And mind to translate context

And in this virtual morass of tongue and text,

I can hear myself scream in a vacuum

Where my verse finds a way to meet the next

Pair of opened ears and piqued senses.

Hearing the perception of other voices

But through clearer eyes understating

This page read from multiple choices, and yet,

There’s never any fear of rejection.

Not here not now. My team pulls the weight

Beside me – attached to some antiquated carriage

Inside, the cargo more precious than we –

We who fear the shame of awareness

When we pull the quill away from the page

And the blinders fall away revealing our periphery

After the shock of daylight, clamping

Down on the bit, metal fit into our mouths

So not to release the screams

As the whips tear at our backs

Leaving open cut and scars at our seams.

The team free from the sentimentality

Loosed from the harness of our own intent

While our words run wild out of the pen and gallop into the daybreak

Where the words speak free.

Put the verse out to pasture without our consent

Those invisible hands hold tight the reigns

l become bridled by imaginary disaster.

Will I find a gentle rider to settle down my wild woes?

One who doesn’t beat out the beauty

Or strike me with cruel force.

Instead please feed the verses apples and sugar cubes.

For today anyway, let the carrots and sticks wait.

Magic Love

Love, one magic number counts four letters of chance and change, positive to negative on your life line a test handed in and then passed and rearranged.

Love, a perfect prism’s reign of color – incarnadine and rosy – lies like a white rabbit’s eyes they follow you. Upstairs, a curtain’s drawn open to a magician who hides up inside his sleeve dark tricks though at first sight you still watch him closely.

Love, lives in a magic city. A filthy town, where you arrived this afternoon, driving deserted sand hill lined roads, the landscape finally yields to billboards on which you read that in the suburbs no ones home or even sleeping.

Love curls like a lazy house cat. Striped and fat it’s mind wanders to windows sleepy and teased by birds and other moving targets.

Love runs faster than a sports car. Shining, topless, windy hair whips your at your cheek – it wasn’t meant to breakdown when you need the ride the most and leaving you in solitude its engine sounds like goodbye.

Love sails with you upon a magic carpet from far away it stops and awakens you from silken dreams. Burgundy and bubbly flows through you and turns your inside out from smiles to screams of pain.

Love, the story playing in a cool dark theater. The wife died at the end the husband writes, couldn’t it be me not her? Then he wipes his eyes and instead with deep regret, throws out his pen and just asks why?