The Gifts of Cancer Treatments

I got a fab surprise when i left my appointment with my radio oncologist today. Look at all that amazing makeup – very high quality and non toxic. I highly recommend going to not my favorite name but i can live with The Breast Cancer Charities of America and the booklet inside is even more valuable with a list of financial resources:

Assistance for everything from transportation to non medical bills to physician to wigs to copays. I rate this a 10 out of 10 even the silly pink wayfair sunglasses are coated with UV eye protection great for the glove box just in case. For anyone needing a little pick me up to paying your phone bills.

I also left with four dot tattoos on my ripped (haha) tummy so the radiation therapist nurses know where to point the beam. Turns out the Verzenio is holding back the L4 tumor which has not grown at all since I started in June. My 10 treatments begin October 5th for two straight weeks. The oncologist will meet with me each Wednesday and again after the final MRI scan – no contrast required. Sigh. My fears are ablated now onto the pesky tumor. Stupid cancer. I hate you.

Much love

Be able to say you’re privileged and become an accomplice for change

The above link will take you to a one page guide to helping women of color, who are 40% more likely to die from breast cancer than white women, due to disparities In socioeconomics, racism, and access to healthcare because of the two aforementioned reasons. This, to me, is as bad as choking the life out of a human being by a person in power. There’s just no uprising for our sisters of color on our parts. My feeling is sexism is also at play and there’s no “exciting news” to polarize our population even further. Instead I highly recommend you seek out ways to help a single person of color or an organization that helps bring medical care where it’s needed.

First, examine your own feelings in the matter. It’s not, “I have a friend who is____, so clearly I’m not racist”. It’s deeper than skin color and has been part of our culture and allowed for too long. In fact, any progress made during the Clinton and Obama eras has been eroded by white male pouting over loss of privilege and through the media both left and right, have raised their voices and in some cases their fists and guns have been allowed to further repress women and persons of color.

Remember the wall our current administration wanted to build? The money should have been funneled where it’s desperately needed. It’s not needed between our neighbors to the south and our country. It can’t be completed and won’t hold up the boarder is too long to patrol.

The boarders in our own communities need to come down and the walls between the privileged and those who are not able to afford good healthcare need to come down, too. But one side can’t talk if there’s no one listening on the other side of the wall.

Do what it takes. Many of us have frustrations about having to sit out the current demonstrations due to our suppressed immune systems. But there’s a phone. There’s the internet. There’s video and all sorts of ways to amplify our voices and demand change. But like I said, take a look inside first as it always is the case you’ll find your own prejudices are subtle. Those jokes aren’t funny. Those words hurt. And they allow for the racially charged violence we are now experiencing.

There was a Latino choked to death this week if you’ve not read or heard about it. He was fleeing a cop but had no weapons on him. The cop threatened to choke him to death. That’s what transpired. We have more to do. Far more than we even know. And in the last nearly four years we’ve taken giant steps backwards as a country.

Do not turn your eyes away. They are our sisters, too. They’ve got breast cancer, too. They’re dying, too. And we need to help use our privileges as white women – they don’t know I’m a Jew until the BRCA 1/2 question comes up but I will tell you attitudes change towards me. And I don’t have color to rat me out. I “don’t look Jewish” and I “don’t look like I have cancer.” But you never saw me in a synagogue and you probably didn’t see what I looked like five years ago either.

If there’s nothing more you can do than bring awareness to the state of the problem then do it. But learn first then act.

None of those jokes are funny.

None of these deaths are necessary.

All those with breast cancer with access to high quality medical care who turn away should be ashamed.

Resources for coping with COVID-19 | Living Beyond Breast Cancer

COVID-19, also called the coronavirus, has caused stress and uncertainty for people around the world. Many people in our communities are worried about the risks to their health because of underlying conditions, such as a weakened immune system as a side effect of breast cancer treatments. Some are also wondering how to cope with weeks in the home avoiding human contact or going out for necessary appointments, such as treatment.
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