Is there a personality type that is prone to cancer? Purportedly those who’s personality exhibit the following characteristics do have a higher propensity: highly conscientious, caring, beautiful, calming, responsible, hard-working and usually above average intelligence. One who exhibits strong tendencies towards caring other peoples burdens and was wearing for others, one who is deep seeded and there need to make others happy and be a people pleaser and often internalizes their emotions and has great difficulty expressing them. There’s also an adverse reaction to stress which the person becomes in able to cope adequately with the activities of the tasks at hand. Possibly this causes the physical manifestations one of which might be the metamorphosis of the cell beginning the course of cancer.
“Extreme suppression of anger was the most commonly identified characteristic of 160 breast cancer patients who were given a detailed psychological interview and self-administered questionnaire in a study conducted by the King’s College Hospital in London, as reported by the Journal of Psychosomatic Research. “Patients results are based on statistical comparisons between 69 patients found at operation to have breast cancer and a control group comprising the remaining 91 patients with benign breast disease. Our principle finding was a significant association between the diagnosis of breast cancer and a behaviour pattern, persisting throughout adult life, of abnormal release of emotions. This abnormality was, in most cases, extreme suppression of anger and, in patients over 40, extreme suppression of other feelings.” [http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/0022399975900628]
I hope the current situation in which I find myself very stressed out doesn’t cause my body to respond in the extreme.
Moving Residence and Stress
How do you handle huge life events with metastatic cancer? As best as you can and with slow determination. Asking for assistance from your friends and from your family sometimes doesn’t pan out. I have a wonderful friend I made years ago at a garage sale. She was a couple of dollars short and I’d covered her so she could enjoy a few vintage ceramics and beads.
I never expected six years later she’d still be my housekeeper. Over the course of time we’d found commonality in our eclectic eye for beads and for jewelry making. We are drudging through the stress of packing, readying our 1600 square foot townhouse http://www.1481carringtoncircle.com/ , and removing the traces of 11 years of memories as eclectic and varied as the beads I collect. She’s come over to help me pack as we sell our townhouse. She also refuses to take a dime because what once were services have shifted into the kindness of a friendship. She commented that I’d give the shirt off my back, which I literally have done several times in my life. And how could she take money from me when clearly I was the one who needed help right now.
All the kindness I have shown her was reflected back at me in ways I never imagined. When we give it should never hold the expectation that we may receive something in return. But as my philosophy about karma is not to do bad in the world as it keeps you looking over your shoulder at whose anger is behind you. Then you cannot see the good that’s right in front of you and you either miss these opportunities or trip over them and fall on your face.
A change of residence is very high on the stress https://www.stress.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/04/stress-inventory-1.pdf
My stress adds up to just under having a 50% chance over the next two years of having a catastrophic health event. I think I’m already there so I’ve beaten the stress scale by four and a half years. But looking back I had a very low level of stress in my life in the years leading up to my diagnosis, so go figure. Perhaps the subconscious predicts stressors before they arrive to eat us alive. I was planning a change of career and the very day – March 15, 2015 – was the same day I was diagnosed in the hospital and the day I was supposed to start a new job.
You Oughta Be in Pictures!
The house really shows well – I’ll have it even more staged for our open house on Sunday. There is so much work to do after living a full life for 11 years in a home. And our home has been really good to us. I’m grateful to it for giving us positive memories, but it’s time to close this chapter in our lives and move onto the next chapter .
I know intrinsically that this house will be wonderful to whomever buys her next. It’s stable and so well cared for and we feel bittersweet selling her but we leave it with good love and positive energy. After searching for our new digs, I believe you can tell if people who lived in a house were happy and if it looks like a product of divorce or ugliness. Not so here!
In the state of California, if someone died in a house in the three years prior to selling it you must disclose that event to the buyers? I found it morbid and kind of strange. our culture’s obsession with first person shooter games, zombies, and horror films directly opposes the feelings of disgust when faced with real death or the dying. I’d think people would be desensitized to death rather than creeped out by it.
I don’t believe there will be anything to disclose. I’ll make it through the move and ably live to experience the next phase of this life. In just two weeks from now we shall see.