Instant Karma’s gonna get you /Gonna knock you off your feet / Better recognize your brothers/ Everyone you meet/ Why in the world are we here/ Surely not to live in pain and fear/ Why on earth are you there?
John Lennon – Instant Karma Lyrics | MetroLyrics
Where you going, Turkey?
I run out of the house about 5:00 pm while the dear husband sleeps at home with dreams of sugarplums or whatever the depressed dream of, dancing in his head. He’s “napping” in his office due to another night of wall patching, crown molding cutting, and painting. Home improvements for dressing up our overpriced Silicon Valley townhouse, in a very good school district should you find yourself interested in an affordable yet pragmatic home with lots of great upgrades in move in condition. My realtor days never stood a chance and never began. But enough of my yakkin, let’s get on with this mockumentary.
I try to wake him gently, without frightening him, and to my dissatisfaction, my 10 minute car ride seems an imposition on his sleep and he groans at the potentially long night ahead. Earnestly my response, “please stay here and sleep then. Happy turkey,” possesses him into a fit of angers and he chased me yelling some foul things at me which I’d rather forget and I slam the door to the house after putting two hastily packed bags in the front seat of my Mini, a car I despise but live with. Disappointed and downcast instead of insisting he take me and feeling his ire rise like a red sun up his neck, I go back inside, kiss his forehead and tell him to just go back to sleep and I’ll call when I know more about the timetable ahead.
So, rather than the table set with a feast of the usual, but beloved conqueror’s meal, I land feet first in Good Samaritan hospital, feeling the swish and settle and the pain of the fluid like a broken snow globe in my belly. Alone on Thanksgiving Night. Neither my mother or father remain in the conscious dimension, and I miss them. So in memorial to my parents, before I go to the place where time stands still, I stop at the open Walgreens en route to the hospital and purchase a cat ear headband which I wear until the next day. Amused by the ears, nurses and occasionally doctors ask why I’m wearing them. Do they make you smile? My response takes them aback and they always respond with the affirmative.
In a morning from a Bogart movie/ in a country where they turn back time/ she goes strolling through the crowd/ like Peter Lorre contemplating a crime./ She comes out of the sun in a silk dress running like a watercolor in the rain./ Don’t bother asking for explanations/ she’ll just tell you that she came / in the year of the cat.
Year of the Cat, Lyrics by Al Stuart, produced by Alan Parsons
Lyrics of genius provide hours of headlong stares through my haze into music coming through my iPad and into my head. Why at 4:00 am, no one can really know, does old music haunt dreams undone. My card catalog file or for you under 30 sect, my internal search engine, cannot let lyrics of any song go, and one, maybe three plays is all it takes and it’s written to memory, like seeing the Grand Canyon might burn into a normal person’s memory. Thus I’m as haunted as I descend into this next surreal event at Good Samaritan.
CAT Scan Fever
Failing to tell them my father would find the cat ears absolutely apropos of the moment and laugh until he teared up, which he did most of his life over things many would find a bit lackluster in humor. But I loved him for our ongoing pun-offs that lasted years. Whichever one of us could elicit the loudest groan from the other of “that was soooo bad” would be the clear champion. By the time he died we had tied, but I think neither of us got the last laugh. Yet my mother, not humorless but more conservative in her snorts of laughter, would simply have roll her eyes and puffed out her dismissal, “my daughter, such the comedian.” Use Bronx bred New York Jewish accent with this statement and thus describe her to a tee.
How different would anything really be if they were still alive? I see families in the ER that night. Sons and daughters. Fathers, mothers, grandmothers mostly, few if any grandfathers. Making up their life stories in my head I also become indignant for their lack of decency in coughing all over or not wearing a mask although it’s clear they’re waiting not for a doctor but for a patient. I see monks in orange with what seemed like burkas over their heads and humbled I thank them silently and grateful for their presence. They seemed to provide control in a swirl of germ laden chaos. I secretly wish to go home with them and do a two week silent retreat.
Typically in the United States, where healthcare costs a fortune, an ER acts as a pseudo budget urgent care clinic for those with maladies such as broken bones and symptoms of infections of every kind: influenzas; stomach viruses; and some with pneumonia. Even I’m averse to wearing a face mask but in required spaces of malfeasance wear I must. Can’t stand the discomfort they cause, can’t breathe, and they make my ears hurt. I pull the mask down to punctuate the veritas of my situation to the check in guard. I lean in and quietly swishing my tight abdomen full of cancerous ascites, that I need to get inside to a single waiting area due to my MBC, but I can stay in queue for the doctors to see me. He looks bored with me and my woeful tale. He looks at me like I belong there on a 5150 instead.
I explain my immune response problems, and beg him please yield to the truth I run down to him. “If you have speaks with the nurses they would back my story up and you’ll not get in trouble.” He ponderously breathes out through his chicken yellow face mask, pushes his girth up using his arms as levers against his makeshift official desk: a plastic card table waiting for replacement during the hospital’s second year of “pardon our dust.” He is going to test my story against hospital rules.
Shifts in Time
Smiling under my mask, I go sit down far from people as possible and within all of five minutes the nurses call my name. All the other waiters in the waiting room give me very ugly and uncomfortable looks as if to say, “I’ll kick your ass, white girl! Who do you think you are in your cat ears getting ahead of the line here?” Princess Kitty feebly attempts an explanation of the criical nature of her cancer, only to find curses hurled at her in Espanol and Mandarin Chinese. I bow, I think, and then let the nurses working the Thanksgiving shift take my vitals and gently escort me to a room where I wait for five hours with a very sick companion about a yard away from me behind two curtains.
And so begins another hospital stay of several days. Not unpleasantly spent waiting for the doctors and specialists to return from a long holiday weekend to the hallowed, echoey corridors of shiny terrazzo stone polished gurney byways. It’s quiet for a change and the nurses seem less bitter as they wear holiday scrubs and small holiday trees begin growing in each wing and ward. Tipping over midnight the resident after a strange outsourcing experience in medical management takes over my case when it’s revealed I’m on social security disability.
Wow. An experience to behold after years of my life spent advising companies large and small on which parts to keep in house and which parts aren’t in the core competencies of the organization to outsource. Last I looted hospitals were in the business of medicine and billing for rendered services. Not a good sign, and this time the certainty of my conviction was more than just a very experienced hunch. So, hold onto your hats for part two of this post in which an unnamed company retains H1B visa doctors steer my wallet towards a billing company for high risk payees who may slow pay or underpay, or gulp, die and never pay patients.
By Saturday morning the removal of another 6.5 liters of fluid drain from me like a waterbed by one of three periocentesis experts, whom I’d met just a year prior right on the same date who came in to poke a hole in my right lower abdomen and guided by an ultrasound and his body of knowledge he said, I swear, “let’s drain you dry.” And drain I did to 15 lbs of relief.
Does a sound of relief slice through my body as I get the first good nights sleep in a week! Goodnight friends. My odyssey continued and still continues. I’ll remind myself on a short post of a timeline that I’m still living out until May 27th.
Taxol take me away to that place when NEAD indeed replaces tumor and chemo in my chart. And immunotherapy trials come to meet us on the high road to wellness.