3 thoughts on “Don’t ask “what can I do for you?” Just doing something small, medium, or thoughtful means the world to friend or relative with #cancer – not disappearing from our lives means the most, but remember we sometimes cannot communicate exactly as we once did. It’s not personal so don’t take it personally.

  1. mpbcwarrior 18January,2018 / 2:07 am

    Ahhh yes…the vanishing friend phenomenon. Sigh.

    • Ilene 18January,2018 / 8:44 am

      There’s many kinds of relationships that vanish or become ghostly to us given the circumstances in which we find ourselves. So many people came and left my life. Yet, oddly, the later developing friendships, perhaps those forged in maturity without the expectations of who we were before fill in some of the isolation otherwise left as part of our collateral damage along with the financial, sexual, identity, physical, self reliance, sanity…all of what we perhaps once were…and cannot be again. The new people cancer created for us out of hunks of marble and granite appeared by chisel and hammer to make us the stronger women we are today. So fuck ‘em. And #fuckcancer

      Hey we should sell non-pink T-shirts to raise money for women who find themselves in dire straights and need a financial boost with your ingenious hashtag #fuckcancer
      What do you think of that?
      I’ve got an Etsy shop and you’ve got the cancer network going – let’s take it offline if you can…or if you think it won’t fly – but I think it’s awesome. We can even sell them through social channels, our blogs, Facebook, Twitter (though not through our insane dare I call trump a president…nightmare!)

      • mpbcwarrior 18January,2018 / 2:22 pm

        Non pink shirts would be perfect. When you’re newly diagnosed you jump on that pink bandwagon not knowing any better. Komen is the absolute worst 🙄.
        I call him the orange cheeto from hell.

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